How do you respond when your children won’t put on their shoes, clean their room, or get into bed the first time you ask them? Or when they won’t eat the food you cook or do their homework without fussing about it?

Some moms struggle to navigate situations like that without yelling or speaking harshly to their children. And when they do succumb to knee-jerk reactions, they feel guilty and angry with themselves.

If you respond in unhealthy ways when your children misbehave, there’s a better approach. You can intentionally slow down and literally write a good response.

Authors Amber Lia and Wendy Speake are with us on our Focus on the